Monday, April 11, 2011

Thank you, military...

This post was a Window Over the Sink newspaper column in November commemoration of Veterans' Day. I didn't post it here, I guess, because it's both localized and family-ized, but I am putting it here today because of how close government has come to shutting down lately. I don't know, or particularly give a damn, whose fault it was. I only know military enlistees are underpaid anyway and that there was real discussion about whether they would be paid at all.

That's just wrong.

John Thomas and Amos Ash were residents of Miami County, Indiana. They fought with the 20th Regiment of Indiana. They died at Gettysburg in 1863.

Uncle Mart was ten years older than Aunt Ethel. They were married forever, but they never had any children. That always seemed odd to me, but it really wasn’t. They adored each other and never needed anyone else; they were a complete family unit unto themselves. He was bald and funny and liked to fish. He served in the first World War. The Big One, some people said.

I don’t remember what his name was, but he and his parents were visiting my family when something happened and they had to return to their South Bend home at once because he had to catch the next train back to his duty station. The day was December 7, 1941, long before I was born, but I still remember the empty look on Mom’s face when she told the story.

Thadd was a baker in the navy during that war, the second of the World Wars. The one more people called The Big One. A couple of years after he came home, Thadd and Mary got married and they had five kids.

His name was Wayne. I was at his going-away party before he left for Vietnam. He was young and smart and eager to serve his country. There was a girl at the party who looked at him with soft eyes. We laughed a lot, had a good time, and wished him luck when we left. We were used to it, I suppose, to saying goodbye and hoping for the chance to say hello when they came back home, so we didn’t give it that much thought.

Wayne, though, and Mike and John, to name but a few, came home in flag-draped coffins. We watched the news, read the papers, wept. We remembered smooth-faced, laughing boys and mourned with the wives and girlfriends and mothers who would never feel the same again, with fathers silent and stoic in their grief. We acknowledged empty places and heard remembered laughter and voices echo through them.

I married the second of Thadd and Mary’s kids after he came home from Vietnam. Like the Korean Conflict, no one ever called it The Big War, but to the ones who served there, and the ones who waited at home, they were big enough. Long enough. Sad enough.

When Desert Storm happened, we watched and waited and feared and prayed. Same with Iraq. With Afghanistan. With all the other wars and conflicts and skirmishes where Americans have served.

A short time ago, the city of Logansport, Indiana welcomed Sgt. Kenneth K. McAnich home. The hearse drove slow and solemn through streets lined with flags and people, the Patriot Guard riding protective escort against those who might not be respectful. It’s symbolic, this ceremonial farewell we offer our fallen warriors. I’m sure it does little to fill the echoing empty places created by their deaths. But it’s all we can do.

My husband remembers how people looked at him in airports when he came home from Vietnam. How they sneered and then looked away. I saw the same thing in Indianapolis, when among the celebratory crowds coming home at Christmastime walked a lone soldier, carrying his duffel bag and staring straight ahead. Forty years later, those who served in Vietnam know it wasn’t them people hated; it was the war. But they still remember.

We all hate war. All of us. Thank goodness we’ve learned how to welcome home those who fight in them. We’ve learned to applaud them in airports and on planes, to buy their lunch once in a while if they’re behind us at the cashier’s station, to say thank you and mean it. That’s why November 11 is Veterans Day. It is not a day of celebration, although rejoicing in freedom is probably never wrong. It is instead a day of remembrance and honor to the men and women who have for 235 years and who continue to serve in the preservation of that freedom. Thank you to all of you. God bless you. God bless America.

Till next time.


Comments: I'm sitting here bawling my eyes out, Liz. I don't come from a military family, but I married into one. My father-in-law served in Vietnam, and my brother-in-law is in Kuwait.
MY BIL is nine years younger than my husband, and I've known him since he was a little boy. He will come home, and that's all there is to it.
# posted by Blogger D'Ann : April 11, 2011 at 8:47 AM   Thanks for stopping, D'Ann. It's a painful thing for everybody. My prayers are with your brother-in-law.
# posted by Blogger Liz Flaherty : April 11, 2011 at 9:05 AM   great post, Liz! Thanks for sharing.
# posted by Blogger Kristina Knight : April 11, 2011 at 4:47 PM   Beautiful post, Liz. My husband served as an infantry soldier in Desert Storm and I prayed every night that he would come home safe. Even though he did, my heart broke for the ones that didn't make it back alive. Thank you for remembering all of our soldiers.
# posted by Blogger Shawn : April 11, 2011 at 7:30 PM   Post a Comment

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